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Downsizing Shortcuts and Solutions for Caregivers

Downsizing can bring challenges at any age, but managing the process with a senior loved one has its own distinct obstacles. Many caregivers can attest to this, especially when supporting a loved one’s transition into a smaller home or assisted living community. There is a medley of moving parts to keep up with and an array of administrative tasks to complete. Not to mention the emotional challenges of letting go of a long-time home, especially if the choice to move was out of necessity, not desire.

Luckily, there are endless resources to help make the downsizing process as smooth as possible for everyone involved. In this article, we share a few solutions and shortcuts to help you navigate downsizing’s toughest challenges, from deciding and decluttering, to moving and adjusting, and all the emotions in between. Harness the benefits of downsizing while supporting your loved one’s independence, honoring their wishes, and minimizing stress for a successful transition.

Downsizing – Is it the Right Decision?

The first hurdle in downsizing is sometimes the decision itself. Knowing when to downsize or rethink a loved one’s home environment can be tricky. For some seniors, circumstances such as an unexpected medical concern, a loss of independence, or financial issues can lead to this decision. Outside of these circumstances, it’s helpful to consider your current needs, lifestyle, retirement plans, and financial state to decide whether downsizing is the right option.

Below are a few questions caregivers can ask their loved ones to help determine if downsizing is the best next step:

  • Are you overwhelmed by household clutter?
  • Do you enjoy hosting gatherings?
  • Are you feeling isolated?
  • Are there many unused rooms in your home?
  • How well can you navigate your home environment?
  • Can you manage stairs or uneven surfaces?
  • Do you enjoy maintaining your home and landscape?
  • Can you afford to stay in your current home for the next 5 years?
  • Would you enjoy living closer to family, friends, or other places you frequently visit?

If you host frequent gatherings, have no spare rooms, and still enjoy the upkeep and lawn care that comes with homeownership, downsizing may not be a priority just yet. On the other hand, if money is getting tight, you only traverse between two or three rooms, and managing the house and all the responsibilities that come with it have become a burden, it might be time to start the moving process.

Talking to Your Loved One About Downsizing

If the signs suggest it’s time to downsize, the second hurdle is talking to your loved one about it. While many older adults admit to noticing the signs that it’s time to downsize, the thought of change or the idea of moving to a new home environment can feel overwhelming. Some seniors live in denial for quite a while, choosing to ignore the signs and manage independently, whether it is safe to do so or not.

Having an honest and empathetic conversation to approach this topic sooner rather than later is a good idea. Caregivers know their loved ones well and can show respect for their needs and wishes by including the senior in the discussion. Open-ended questions that encourage reflection can help get the conversation started, such as:

  • How do you feel about living alone in the house and managing so much?
  • What do you think will happen as you get older and remain in your home?
  • What would make things easier for you here at home?
  • If you could change anything about your home environment, what would it be?
  • How can we start the process of downsizing together?

Focus on communicating clearly and presenting downsizing as a simple, organized process you’ve thoughtfully considered. Acknowledge their fears and provide reassurance for the unknowns. Invite them to think about how involved they would want to be and describe the benefits and drawbacks of both options. While some seniors enjoy having some control, others may find that they don’t want to be involved in the process at all, except when it comes to making select decisions.

One advantage of downsizing when there is no immediate need to move is the option to take the process slowly and keep it manageable. During this time, families can create a downsizing plan that outlines how they wish to tackle the project. This can set expectations in advance and make it possible for family members or friends to assist or delegate when needed. Perhaps you begin by sorting through one room at a time. Maybe you start with the house's most essential rooms, make needed adjustments, and then assess the rest of the home. Or, if safety is a main concern, make a list of priorities and start there. Whatever your approach, set small goals to keep the process moving without adding anxiety.

Managing Strong Emotions

Anxiety and other strong emotions are natural reactions to any significant life change, especially those that drastically alter one’s daily routine. Caregivers can remind their loved ones (and themselves) that their feelings are normal. In fact, experiencing an emotional response to change can be an important and necessary part of the acceptance process.

While emotions are normal, we also know they can become unhelpful. Navigating complex emotions when downsizing might prompt family members to snap at each other or take out their feelings on one another, especially if they’re having a hard time recognizing their emotional state. This can cause conflict and hurt feelings, adding to an already stressful situation.

Emotions can make people uncomfortable, but rather than running from how you feel, try to embrace the discomfort and find contentment and gratitude however you can. Coping mechanisms like deep breathing, cognitive reframing, journaling, laughter, problem solving, positive thinking, forgiveness, and emotional regulation can help you and your loved ones work through the complicated feelings that come with this process.

Tips for Decluttering and Letting Go

One of the most emotionally-charged tasks associated with downsizing is decluttering and letting go of old belongings. This task can also strain our mental capacity for making decisions. Think about it—at this stage in your loved one’s life, the home is full of precious items collected over a lifetime. Much of what is stored is likely junk—decades-old receipts or piles of mail they can’t seem to escape, but aside from that, a great deal of what is stored in the home still has memories attached. For that, we have a few helpful tips to get you started.

Reframe your mindset. First, it can be useful to reframe your mindset. Focusing on the loss can make it more difficult to part with things a loved one no longer has the space for. While it’s hard to let go, remember that loved ones are creating a new home filled with only what they love and need most. When in doubt, the KonMari Method of keeping only things that “spark joy” and thanking the items you are parting with can aid in decision-making. Remind loved ones that they are curating a new space to reflect themselves and everything they love most.

Start Small. Make the decluttering process easier by starting small, packing less frequently used and deeply sentimental items first, and designing a functioning labeling system to eliminate future confusion. When it’s time to sort through the clutter, discard duplicates and items you haven’t used within the last year. If you have more memorabilia than you can bring to the new home, try saving space by consolidating collections and digitizing old letters and photos. Maximize time, effort, and energy by working through piles with fewer emotions attached and saving items of significance for last. Once the clutter is separated from the “treasures,” you can reset and approach those items later.

Donate and Discard. Once you decide what to keep, it’s time to eliminate everything else. Household items still in good condition can be donated or sold at a yard sale. If you have a lot of things to get rid of, it might even be a good idea to do both!

Not sure where to donate? You can start with local thrift stores and community services organizations, Goodwill, Salvation Army, Veterans services, Habitat for Humanity, and others. A quick Google search will also yield familiar and unique places to donate after decluttering, such as those in this article, which includes a list of 11 charities that offer free donation pick-up.

For items on their way out, you can inquire about local trash pickup, purchase a dumpster, or contact a junk hauler who can come and take whatever you’ve set aside for this purpose.

Gift and Give Away. Vintage pieces and sentimental items can be offered to dear friends and beloved neighbors, who may appreciate and cherish a parting gift from your loved one. It’s helpful to sort and label these items separately and place them into bags or boxes to ensure they don’t get mixed up with other piles.

Preparing for a Safe and Efficient Move

For most seniors, the downsizing process doesn’t end with just decluttering. It involves preparing for a move, ideally one that offers a lifestyle with less maintenance and responsibility, more joy, and peace of mind, such as an assisted living or memory care community. Moving from an old home to a new home can be chaotic at the best of times, but the last thing seniors and their families need on moving day is an unanticipated trip to the emergency room or an inability to find critical documents.

Start early and go in with a plan for how you’ll keep moving day safe and running smoothly. Keep pathways clear of anything you can trip over and other hazards. Place boxes together so that safe pathways are obvious. (Remember not to stack them too high, however, as that can create its own set of problems if they topple over.)

During the downsizing process, before even beginning to pack, create an ongoing list of important papers and essentials that should be kept separate. Put any medical records, birth certificates, passports, insurance policies, social security cards, and other important documents together in a secure location you can access throughout the move. While packing, set aside an essentials bag containing necessities like medications, toiletries, sleepwear, and cleaning and kitchen supplies. Keep this bag separate from the packing boxes and in a place you can access anytime.

If overseeing the heavy lifting is, quite literally, too much to manage, consider a senior care transition or moving specialist who can assist with packing up the home and unpacking into the new space. With professional support, family members have more time and emotional energy to support their loved one and ensure they feel comfortable adjusting to their new home and routine.

Adjusting to a New Home and Routine

Adjusting to a new home and routine is one of the final hurdles in downsizing. For seniors moving to an assisted living or memory care community, support from family and friends can go a long way in helping them feel at home during the first few weeks. The following is a list of ways caregivers can assist during the transition:

  • Personalize your loved one’s new space and create a warm, welcoming, and easy-to-manage layout.
  • Assist with arranging furniture, selecting decor, coordinating linens, and determining storage solutions.
  • Compile and organize essential documents and complete change of address requirements.
  • Help your loved one create connections in the new community by familiarizing yourself with the building and getting to know residents and staff.
  • Plan to have friends and family visit once they’ve settled in so they can see familiar faces and maintain old connections.
  • Join your loved one for activities, events, and programs in the community, such as weekly walks, lunch in the dining room, a happy hour visit, or stopping by for an exercise class or afternoon entertainment.

It’s important to remember that the fear of the unknown accompanying change is often the most significant hurdle when downsizing or moving. This is why your presence in the community for the first few weeks can help your loved one feel reassured and gain confidence in overcoming their fears, making new connections, and enjoying their new routine.

Caregivers managing the downsizing process for a senior loved one balance endless responsibilities, complex emotions, and multiple roles with conflicting demands. If this sounds like you, don’t hesitate to ask for guidance and support, especially from a senior care counselor. Their expertise can be invaluable in helping you manage each step of a loved one’s move, from signing paperwork and securing floor plans to placing a deposit and downsizing. Every caregiver wants to ensure their loved one’s successful transition when moving to a senior living community but caring for yourself throughout the process should also be a top priority.

Whenever you can, try to schedule stress-relieving activities that can offer a break from your responsibilities. Consider investing in services that can help save time and effort and make things easier for you and your family, whether that means hiring a moving company or other professional. Look for ways to ensure your needs are also taken care of, so you can offer your best to your loved one.

Supporting Your Loved One’s Move

Feeling that caregiver stress? We’re here to support you.

Let us know if you’re starting the downsizing process for a senior loved one or exploring a senior living move. Our Stoney Brook team is well-equipped to partner with caregivers and support their loved ones through the transition of moving.

Whether your loved one could benefit from assisted living or supportive memory care, our Stoney Brook senior living options provide a warm, welcoming home environment where seniors can thrive in community with others. To learn more about how we can help, connect with a team member, check out our blog, or schedule a visit to any of our Central Texas locations today.

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